Someone called me the other day – her Father In Law had died and she was struggling to help her Husband find words for a eulogy. I duly sent over my own words – with the caveat that just as I’d said, they were relevant and personal to me, my family and my relationship with […]
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Well, I wasn’t expecting that.
So, today is Saturday. At 8am, I’m laying in bed, feeling overshadowed by thoughts of my Dad, how he died, what happened and what could have happened. How I need to get on with the day and don’t want to and …. well. It just goes on. The internal conflict. Meh. And in the post, […]
How to help when someone dies….
It is two weeks and one day since my Lovely Dad died. In the midst of this, the saddest I have ever felt in my life, there have been some moments of absolute kindness that have touched not just me, but our family in ways that I will be forever grateful for. So, feeling like […]
Dear Father Christmas….
Dear Father Christmas, For Christmas I would like something that I know many people won’t be asking for, but I do know that there is something that I really, really want. I really would like for this to be my Dad’s last Christmas here on this earth and that he’ll move on to the next […]
I hope you had the time of your life.
Another turning point, a fork stuck in the road Time grabs you by the wrist, directs you where to go So make the best of this test, and don’t ask why It’s not a question, but a lesson learned in time It’s something unpredictable, but in the end it’s right I hope you had the […]
It’s not all meh. Promise ;)
Just in case you think I’ve totally lost all my positivity and the things which usually make me such a good person to know and hang out with, I’d like to tell you that I’m still here. Still finding life fun in places and still loving my work and my people. Promise. x Me. […]
Hello Dad. Letter 1.
The excitement when you find a packet of your favourite crisps and snaffle them without being caught!!! He chose the crisps this afternoon. He put them in the cupboard. But he was surprised to find them and enjoyed eating them. We’re trying to find joy in the small things. #dementiaawareness #dementia #stillmydad A post shared […]
I know you haven’t made your mind up yet….
EDIT: I drafted this post several weeks ago. It’s incredible to see how quickly things are deteriorating for my Dad because most of this is now irrelevant. But I want to keep it here so I can know that there was a time when I felt there was still an opportunity to fight. This is […]
Things to say to someone whose Dad has dementia. And things to not say to them.
I need to start a list of things that you should say and things that you should not say to someone whose Dad has dementia. Things to say: This is pretty shit isn’t it? What can I do to help? Do you need a drink? Things to not say: I don’t know why she’s putting […]
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