November 2018, OK, this is the last post I’m publishing from my drafts for tonight. This was written on 26th August 2012. The boys were 5 and 4 years old. I think. My maths is not working as well as I want it to at the moment. I am so so so pleased to find this. The older the boys get, the more they need us present. The older they get, the more we need the space to be near each other and also – away from each other. Why? So we can keep helping them develop to be the humans that they want to be – to work out who they want to be. To support them with having all the adventures they want to have. Because life’s too short to do anything else. And that’s why I’m going offline. To be near them. Night.
What is really important to you?
I’m reassessing what’s important to me at the moment…
I thought that it was important to be so busy that I had to work not just full time hours, but full time hours plus some.
I thought that it was important to be constantly striving to reach the next goal financially, to be achieving targets.
I thought that it was important to be providing for our family, so that they could have the best of everything we could have, want and need.
I’m having a bit of a re think right now.
I think that it would be really great to be busy and earn enough money for us all to get by happily, working part time hours, around the boys and their school hours and some of their holidays.
I think that so long as we’ve got enough money to live on, put some savings away and to have occasional treats out, we’ll all be happy.
I think that perhaps I don’t have to provide gold plated things for our boys, because they won’t remember them in the long term. They won’t remember where their clothes came from – gap / next / boutique versus asda / tesco / sainsbury’s. But they will remember both their Daddy and I being there, hanging out with them, doing the school runs, playing games and doing homework with them.
Do you ever find yourself re assessing? Appraising what you actually want?