Schizo Sunday…

I swear, there’s something in the water. It’s been a pants weekend mostly, because  a) I missed out on a sleepover that’s been planned since December, one that was just for mummies and b) I realised that I am actually a bit of a grown up (something I’ve been avoiding for a while…)

High points of today:
- getting boys to eat breakfast nicely whilst I read to them
- playing at the park, feeding the ducks, crossing a wooden ‘bridge’, hunting for treasure
- buying a Sunday paper – I love that I’m thinking it’s possible to read one. Haven’t done that in 4 years. Haven’t read it yet, but thinking it’s ok to buy one – that’s progress, right?
- E trying potato wedges that he wouldn’t normally look twice at
- Taking boys to Duxford Air Museum and smiling nicely when they were enjoying themselves [terrorising  the other visitors with their screaming as they played aeroplanes]

Low points of today:
- threatening boys with smacking on more occasions than I care to remember
- abandoning parenting and taking to my bed for an hour at 4pm. Lovely Bloke took over at that point.
- shouting at Lovely Bloke for annoying me, when he wasn’t  really being that annoying
- boys not eating their dinner, no matter what :(
- not getting around to planting out the seeds that we’ve successfully grown in two jars

So where does this one fit?
E has popped up from behind the sofa, scared the bejesus out of me, and begun to ask lots of questions about swimming, and how you would drown, and whether I would shout at him if he did, and if he would need to go to the doctor.

With every day that passes my life mirrors outnumbered more and more closely than I care to admit to.

He tells me he is hungry. “So so hungry mummy, Derek [his toy dog who he sleeps with] couldn’t sleep because he could hear my tummy rumbling”. So I let him finish his half eaten apple off. And then we get to the nub of it: he doesn’t want to go to sleep on his own. 

We’ve had this for a while now, and as he’s been unwell, he’s had a few nights in our bed. You know, when you’ve changed the sheets so many times you have no bedding left and you’re so tired you could sleep in the dirty bedding on the floor? That’s not just me, is it???

Anyway, he’s laid down on the sofa, feet under my bum, and gone to sleep beautifully. Told me he loved me, and going to sleep next to me is best.

I’m building a rod for my back. Part of me thinks it’s wrong. But another part of me thinks that he will be too cool to want to do this with me for much longer, so surely I should let it happen?

See, it’s just another thing to make me think that it’s a Schizo Sunday. How’s your day been??

Not such a simple Saturday.

My priorities have changed, have yours?

Image courtesy of www.bigbrightbrain.wordpress.com

I’ve had tonight planned since December. No, it’s not a date night or a night out. It’s a sleepover for 4 mummies. I have been so excited about it. Childcare arranged courtesy of  SIL and all plans sorted.

Until E started being sick 9 days ago. At the time, I assumed it was a 48 hour thing. The problem is, he’s not sick all day long, or even every day. It’s  intermittent. He complains of  tummy ache, then he’s sick and within ten minutes he’s off and running again. Thankfully he’s not upset by it; in fact, he’s quite matter of fact with it. So when he was sick again yesterday, we took him back to the doctors, like they told us to if it lasted a week. On our first visit they queried a grumbling appendix which was worrying.  But now we know it’s a virus as his glands are up all over his body.

It’s awful, but I’m really resentful of him right now, terrorising W, being a little toad – hurting him, teasing him and being a 4 year old little boy. At 4pm he had the stomach ache  that usually precedes vomiting, but we’ve not had any so far. So now I’m even more irked that I’m not going to my meet up.

Working full time means that it’s a case of trying to fit everything else in on a schedule that I have to book in advance: seeing friends (this afternoon’s  park visit was postponed, and tonight’s meet up is out), seeing Lovely Bloke for a film night together (that was affected this week by the vomiting wonder…) and finding time for myself (well, there’s not much time for that right now but hey ho…). These things are all the more precious now I’m working. Lovely Bloke took me to Waitrose and I’ve had veg samosa and chocolate frozen yogurt for my tea to make my moping better whilst he’s out at work. Bless him.

But I’m still feeling sorry for myself.

Having said all that, I wouldn’t have been able to leave him tonight. It’s my job to be there when either of them are sick,  feverish, poorly or simply needing me. And that’s my priority in life – my boys.

I was asked to think about a blog post on the big changes that occur when you have babies. I said it all comes down to time and money. I want to add a third thing to that – priorities. Your priorities change. And sometimes they annoy you, but they are what they are and are there for a reason.

Simple Saturday #2

Well, I’d like to report that Saturday has started off being simple, just like last weekend, which was lovely. But it’s not. E was awake three times in the night. That’s his new ‘thing’ and at 5am, when I put him back to bed, he decided he’d wake his little brother W. So after 1hr 10 mins of trying to get them both back to sleep, they are now up and chasing around each other.

I on the other hand feel that my mental health is suffering for it. I am so short tempered already as I’ve got lots on with work and the shed/office project isn’t finished yet. And now they’ve found a ball and had to have it taken away from them. So E is sobbing. Great start to the weekend…

Thank you Thursday… Thank you to the Sick Children’s Trust

So at 2pm, I legged it into Acorn House, which is the Cambridge ‘branch’ of the Sick Children’s Trust. I was running late, on a tight schedule and rushed. I’d wanted to postpone, as I’ve got so much going on at the moment. But I’m glad I didn’t. In fact, more than that, it made me want to say Thank you to him upstairs for people who help others when they really need it. And I want to be one of those people..

Acorn House - part of the Sick Children's Trust

Acorn House, Cambridge

This doesn’t look like much from the outside does it?

But inside, it’s an oasis of peace, calm and an opportunity to escape for families who really need it.

The Sick Children’s Trust in Cambridge is based in the grounds of Addenbrookes. It’s run by Joy, who is the nicest person you could wish to meet. And given half a chance, I think she could talk as much as I do, which is always good to find….

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Stats: 16 bedrooms, with a 98% occupancy rate every month, helping  640 families every year, to stay together, when they need it most.

Their strapline is “we’re here so you can be there” and that’s something that I know personally, has a really big impact. When W was just 13 weeks old, he became ill, very suddenly, and we were taken by ambulance from a local hospital in Cromer to the Norfolk and Norwich University Hospital.

Whilst they tried to work out what was wrong, Lovely Bloke and I stayed with him. E was collected by Nana and Grandad and it was the longest 3 nights of my life. It was even more difficult for Lovely Bloke, bless him, as he slept in the car – we both wanted him to be close by and there if W or I needed him. I get teary just thinking about it.

The facilities are amazing – two beds, a pull out bed underneath, travel cots if needed, washing facilities in the room, lots of showers, baths, washing machines, everything you can think of is there. The kitchen area is brilliant, and there’s a beautiful lounge, with a HUGE tv, dvds and also, a quiet room, where families can have a bit of time out when it’s needed. It’s also used by staff to have conversations with families when they want to be able to give people their full attention as someone who’s had those “chats”, that’s something special in itself.

Thankfully, W is now fighting fit and creating havoc in the house as I type. But it’s not the same for everyone, and Acorn House could really do with some help. And for once, it’s not about the money.

- they could do with a business donating 200 towels to them, so they could give them to families
- they need £750 worth of washing up liquid, toilet rolls and washing powder
- they need samples of smellies – shampoo, conditionner, shower gel, flannels, toothpaste

These things aren’t luxuries or treats – they are for the people who arrive in the middle of the night, unnanounced, wearing the clothes they came in.  Joy told me about a new mum who arrived with her 48 hour old baby at 3am this morning, and didn’t even have a change of clothes with her. That’s hard isn’t it – can you remember being a new mum? I can, leaking everywhere, feeling like I’d been hit by a truck and not knowing what day it was? Imagine having your baby in intensive care on top of that – can you? I don’t want to, because it upsets me.

I’m going to be approaching some of the local names I know, to ask them to help me give towels and samples of smellies to make life a bit easier for the people who need it most. Do you know of a brand, local business or people who could help with this? I’m happy to proclaim their name far and wide if you can help me get this off the ground. Because it’s something that I know would have a huge impact for very little cost and time on my part.

I’m looking forward to you opening your address books when I email, tweet or call you shortly… :)

Simple Saturday…

This is my effort to introduce Simple Saturday.

What’s that?

It’s a photo, or a bit of text, whatever you like, that communicates how you’re trying to get away from the hustle, bustle, routine, scheduling and manic ness of Monday – Friday with something  off schedule, off plan and off target.

This is W. He’s watching  Sinbad the Pirate, with me catching up on emails next to him, whilst E and Lovely Bloke are asleep together upstrairs.

My Saturday Morning Pirate.
Simple Saturday – being a pirate

What are you doing today to get away from the schedule and routine of the week?  Post a link to your blog if you do this.

Anyway, I’m now wearing the pirate scarf and I have to go and get us ready for the schedule of the weekend – swimming, then dropping posters and flyers to St Albans (90 minutes each way) and seeing a friend and her baby for 30 minutes before my two make too much noise and make the dad jumpy…

Then it’s home, tea time, bath and bed and then me doing some work…

What are you doing today?

Seeing the bigger picture…

And the smaller one. And the smallest one. And it’s the smallest one that’s most important to me today. I’ve had a busy day – leaving the house at 6.30am  and getting home at 6.10pm. And when I got home, I cuddled  and squeezed all three of my best boys, and shared a bath with the two littlest ones ;)

It was such a nice thing to come home to – E and W were so pleased to see me. And me them. But it was after lights out that I was really struck by how much I’ve missed them all. So when E wouldn’t go to sleep, I let him get in our bed and right now, he’s in  it. I’m going to go up and try to get him into his bed, but if he’s not keen, I’ll let him stay with us.

Bad mummy? To some yes. But to me, it’s a good mummy thing  – being there for my little people. I’m seeing the bigger picture because  in a fewye

Apparently, this is *my song*

I love this song. It makes me so happy. I bop along to it in my car and now I’m wibbling in my seat, working away..

Does anyone remember Ally McBeal and their theme songs? Hope I’m not out on a limb here, because this is *so* a theme song for me. Ironic of course, given that I work anything but 9-5 these days….

Benefit of being self employed – you can listen to Dolly Parton in your office with no one to witness your singing!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jqiwEafCJ74

What’s your theme song? What makes you get up and going? Looking forward to hearing what your musical taste is like ;)

With thanks to my designer Tami Brown, for tagging this on facebook as “my song” :)))

I HATE my hair

I am gutted. I thought I was soooo smart, having my hair that was past my shoulders cut into a statement haircut – you know, all chic, cool and sassy. And instead, I look like a berk. It’s really hard for me. I think to myself “it’s ok, it’s going to grow”.. but I’m to look even more of a pillock whilst my hair grows out. I’m so angry with myself for being so silly.

I tried to be all nonchalant – saying “if I don’t get used it, I’ll grow”. But it’s not going to grow quick enough. I am so annoyed with myself. I look so, well, butch.

I don’t need you to come flooding in with the “oh you are still lovely” comments, I’m just putting it out there that I know it doesn’t change who I am, but I’m, well, quite annoyed with myself every time I look in the mirror…

As soon as it’s grown a mm I’ll let you know…